- Pastor Jacob Marchitell
Ephesians 4:1-3
Given on 06/20/2021

Today were going to take a look back at last week’s Verses, to help us understand what is happening here in Paul’s letter to the Ephesians.
Ephesians 4:1–3
[1] I therefore, a prisoner for the Lord, urge you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called, [2] with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, [3] eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.
Opening Prayer
Like I said last week, were right in the middle of the Book of Ephesians.
And before we actually get into our Verses today, were going to take a quick look backwards at what weve covered.
We're going to do that, because these first few verses of chapter 4, are a hinge for the rest of the book.
Paul has spent 3 chapters laying a foundation
And here he switches to tell us about what is built on that foundation
He swings in a different direction
So for the first 3 chapters of Ephesians, Paul is helping us identify:
Where we stand
What makes us Christians?
Is because of how we were raised?
Is because we are extra smart?
Are some people Christians, while others aren't ….. Because they had some kind of privilege in life, and they're more able to understand the things of God?
Ephesians 2:8-9
[8] For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, [9] not a result of works, so that no one may boast.
God saved us ------ we didn't save ourselves
God saved us ------- we couldn't save ourselves
While we were still undeserving sinners, God came to Earth and saved us.
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For 3 chapters God uses the pen of Saint Paul to explain this to us.
He hammers it in over and over and over again
And I know I myself, even sometimes when im preaching, repeat myself accidentally.
My mind wanders---
I loop back into what I already said---
But that doesn't happen in Scripture.
When something is repeated over and over and over again, it’s there on purpose to draw our attention to it.
And for 3 chapters, God is drawing our attention to the reality that is spoken of all through Scripture, Old Testament and New -------- and that is that Salvation is of the Lord.
He did the work
He paid the price
He breathes life into dry bones
He brings the dead to life
He makes enemies His friend
He called lazarus from the grave without Lazarus’s permission, and He does the same to everyone else
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And because Salvation belongs to the Lord ------ we can never LOSE our salvation
He forsaw our stupid choices, and still died for us
He knew our weaknesses, and still chose us
He isn't surprised when you sin, and He will never leave you because of your sins
That isn't an excuse to go sin, but know that there is nothing you can do that will cause God to loosen His grip on you
If youve been here on Sundays as weve worked through the first 3 chapters of Ephesians, youve heard all of this repeated over and over and over
Because ---- the first three chapters of Ephesians repeated it over and over and over
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So when we take a step back and look at Ephesians as a whole, we can see that God is laying down a foundation for us to build on.
He’s telling us that we are in His hands and that if you have repented of your sins and believed in the Gospel of Jesus Christ ----- then He will never abandon you.
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So ill ask again --- this time on purpose ---
Where do we stand?
Matthew 7:24-27
24 “Everyone then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock. 25 And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house, but it did not fall, because it had been founded on the rock. 26 And everyone who hears these words of mine and does not do them will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand. 27 And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell, and great was the fall of it.”
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Then Paul moves into the verses we talked about last week.
What do we do with knowing where we stand?
4:1 tells us
We walk in a manner worthy of our calling
If you are a Christian, then God has called you----
That is where we stand, and nothing can change that
And we are urged by a prisoner to walk in a manner worthy of that calling.
We are being urged from below, instead of being commanded from above------because how we walk and live out our life -------must come from within us ------ we must WANT to live for Him
The deepest desire of our heart must be to see God and His ways and His words and His name lifted high over everything in our life.
If you were here last week, then you already know that Colossians 1:10 tells us 2 ways in which we walk worthy of the sacrifice that Jesus offered up
We are told to bear fruit in every good work ----- and increase in the knowledge of God
To examine our life to see what comes from us
Are we doing things for God?
Is His kingdom advancing, because of us?
Is His name and His word being lifted up, because of how we live our life?
Bearing fruit is how we walk worthy of the sacrifice that Christ paid
And that same verse, that told us bearing fruit is how we walk in a manner worthy of our calling, also told us that increasing in the knowledge of God, is another way
Increasing in the knowledge of God, is how we walk worthy of the sacrifice that Christ paid
We increase in the knowledge of Him
Always growing
Always searching
Always studying and reading and learning and exploring
Not getting our fill on superficial pseudo-spiritual social nonsense that this world is shoving down our throat
But we get our fill from the Word of God
When we realize where we stand, in the palm of His holy hand, and then we move forward in our life bearing fruit and increasing in the knowledge of Him-----
Your life will take shape
We will have direction
We will have our mission
We will know that nothing in this world can stop us
Not stalled out in our suffering, just trying to make it through
Not exerting every ounce of strength we have to try and make life work
But resting in the absolute sovereignty of God over our life.
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Then…...we can finally get into verses 2-3
Ephesians 4:1–3
[1] I therefore, a prisoner for the Lord, urge you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called, [2] with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, [3] eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.
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Bearing fruit is good----- we already went through all that
Increasing in the knowledge of God is good ------- we already went through all that
But -------- how -------
How can I do that?
We become a part of our local Church
Being a church member doesn't save you----But saved people are members of a Church
Anyone that tells you they love God but don't go to Church ----- means they love a god of their own design.
They don't want to be called out on their sin ----
So they avoid Churches that call sin for what it is
They don't want to hear about repentance
So they avoid the Churches that talk about it----
They don't want to hear about being kind to sinners
So they avoid churches that talk about it----
They don't want to hear about judgment and hell
So they avoid Churches that talk about----
They want to fashion their life around a god they make up in their mind who never judges anyone and will never send people to hell-----
Who is a soft and squishy feel good old man who never does anything that they themselves think contrary too
So when a Church actually preaches and teaches that Scripture says God IS sovereign and He WILL do those things ------ they stay home
They stay home and never learn
Never grow
Never help others
Never let others help them
Never confess their sins
Never worship with other believers and grow alongside them
They never live into the words of:
Philippians 1:27
[27] Only let your manner of life be worthy of the gospel of Christ, so that whether I come and see you or am absent, I may hear of you that you are standing firm in one spirit, with one mind striving side by side for the faith of the gospel, (ESV)
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God spent 3 chapters establishing the reality that He is sovereign over everything------
And then tells us to be:
Humble
Gentle
Patient
And to what?
What does the verse say?
--------- to bear with one another in love
Im sure some of this is hard to hear
Im sure there are COUNTLESS examples of Churches being horrible to people
Mistreating them
Being malicious and mean-spirited
Hurting people intentionally because they think they themselves are somehow holier or better than other people
But God didn't spend three chapters explaining that no one is holier than anyone else, and it is HIM that does the saving ------ so that His children will go out and treat people like garbage
And any Church, that treats people like that ------ isn't following their own rules
They think they are smarter
Better
Or holier
And it is those preachers and teachers that should shake and fear under the words of
James 3:1
“Not many of you should become teachers, my brothers, for you know that we who teach will be judged with greater strictness”
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But none of that, disqualifies our words in verse 2 this morning.
Be humble
Be gentle
Be patient
AND
Bear with one another in love
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You see, when God’s children gather as a local Church ------- they are setting themselves up for success ------- if they are following what the Bible teaches.
We are intentionally putting ourselves in situations where humility will be needed
Where patience will be needed
Where gentleness will be needed
Because anyone can tell you, that other people, especially other Christians ------- can cause you to be angry and prideful and self centered -------- OR humble and patient and gentle
Other people test our patience----
Other people test our humility---- and test our gentleness
And when we exercise patience, humility and gentleness ------- we are bearing together in love
We are admitting that WE OURSELVES aren't the standard for how to live
When the children of God unite in humility, patience and gentleness amongst ourselves, we are puzzle pieces joining together to face whatever the world can throw at us.
We are a mosaic of lost and broken and undeserving sinners, saved by the grace of God through the gift of faith that He gave us ------- we are called to be together.
God didn't plant us out in the wilderness to fend for ourselves against the elements and the predators ------
He planted us in a garden ---- His church
Where he uses His other children to kill the weeds of self-righteousness
Where He uses His other children to fertilize and provide water and shade and protection from the elements and the predators
Together ----- we are stronger than we could ever be apart -----
But it will require us to be patient, humble, and gentle
Am I repeating myself enough?
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Now, it must be said that this is not a reason to not call out sin when we see it growing in our Church.
Being humble doesn't mean being silent in the face of someone being a bully
Being humble doesn't mean letting someone walk all over you
Being humble means understanding that you are a tool in the hands of God
Nothing more
Nothing less
Some tools are capable of ripping 100yr old trees from the earth
Others are small enough that they can’t be seen with the naked eye
And being around other Christians, will help you learn to be humble
Being patient doesn't mean being lazy
Being patient doesn't mean not doing the things of the Lord
Being patient means working and striving and planting, while accepting that God is the one who causes the growth
It means not getting bitter and angry when what you want to happen, isn't happening
Being gentle doesn't mean ignoring sin
Being gentle doesn't mean staying quiet and soft
It means understanding that the issues we are dealing with are soul level, life altering, topics----------- that people have spent their entire lives guarding----- with everything in their life.
A Surgeon is gentle, but he still cuts deep into the vital organs of someone ----- when there is no other way
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Bear fruit
Increase in the knowledge of God
Strive side by side with other Christians
Go to Church
Be humble
Be patient
Be gentle
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And like I mentioned earlier and last week as well ------
These things must come from within us ----- because we WANT them too
That is what verse 3 is talking about when it says:
“...eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.”
Are you EAGER for your church to grow?
Are you EAGER for healthy christian relationships?
For humility and kindness
For gentleness and patience?
Are you EAGER to maintain the unity that can only come from the Holy Spirit?
Will the mistakes of other Christian push you away from the Church that God created?
Will the ---- intentional ---- choices of other Christians who think they are holier or smarter ------ push you away from the Church that God purchased with His own blood?
Do you want to see the Church grow? // To expand?
Do you want to see the lost coming every Sunday?
Because---- it starts with you in the pews
Being gentle toward one another /// Being patient with one another
Being humble with one another /// Bearing in love with one another
Being eager to maintain the unity of the Holy Spirit in the bond of peace
Doxology